Welcome to another "Flip the Script Friday". Although The Serious Tip has been primarily a sports-related blog since its inception, on any given Friday I "flip the script" and blog about whatever I so desire. Today I present an interview I had the pleasure of doing with the beautiful Kayden Kross of Vivid Video.
An Interview with Adult Model/Pornstar Kayden Kross
Relatively new to the porn scene, new Vivid Video adult star Kayden Kross began as a dancer in Rancho Cordova, California, and has since graced the pages of dozens of magazines to include Penthouse, Hustler, Club, and Swank. She recently finished filming her first film "Kayden's First Time", which should be in stores near you soon, depending on the laws of your area, of course.
Kayden is also among a growing group of pornstars who are working to destroy the "bimbo" stereotype. A published poet, she plans on finishing her degree in psychology in the fall.
The Serious Tip: So Kayden, how have you been?
Kayden Kross: Awesome, thanks. How are you?
TST: Not bad at all. I read on your myspace page that you recently moved to San Diego, how did the move go? Are you enjoying it so far?
KK: The move went really well but took a long time. I love San Diego. There is no place like it.
TST: Why did you move?
KK: I moved down here because the weather is great year round, which gives me more days to play with my horses and is generally just convenient. One of my good friends lives down here too.
TST: So what do you consider your job title to be? What do you write on your taxes? Actress? Model? Adult performer? Pornstar?
KK: I'm very vague on my taxes. This is the first year I can claim to be a pornstar, but last year when I did the nude modeling rounds I just said I was a model....
TST: Do you enjoy what you do? Why? What is the best thing about it?
KK: I absolutely love what I do. The best part of the job is the b/g (ed note: boy/ girl) scenes. I really look forward to work.
TST: What, if any, are the biggest inconveniences of being in your profession? Can you still live a "normal" life? For example, can you still go grocery shopping? Still go to the mall? Or do people recognize you and try to say hello, get your autograph, etc?
KK: I haven't been recognized too many times. That's never been a problem and I don't think it ever will be. The biggest inconvenience is living in one city and working in the other.
TST: How is the social life of someone in the adult industry different from a "normal" person? Do folks in the industry keep to themselves socially?
KK: People in the industry are generally very close and supportive of one another. That was one thing that really drew me to it. It's not like a strip club where the girls are catty or downright evil. I think the only thing that's different is the amount of people we end up meeting and interacting with.
TST: Do you date? Has your dating life changed since you started in adult entertainment? Are you more cautious? More inhibited?
KK: I date casually. The only thing I have to do is be sure that the person I'm dating is comfortable with what I do. I think I'm less inhibited every day.
TST: What type of guy piques your interest?
KK: I have a soft spot for intelligence. I like business men mostly. I love a guy in a suit.
TST: Has your opinion of the male species as a whole changed since you started in the adult business?
KK: I have a much better opinion of guys now than I had when I danced.
TST: Is there anything a guy absolutely must have for you to be in a relationship with him?
KK: He must be self-disciplined and self-sufficient.
TST: If I am not mistaken, you were at some point at an exotic dancer. So what is so exotic about an exotic dancer? That never made much sense to me.
KK: Just boobs. Boobs are exotic when they are hanging in your face.
TST: Funniest thing that ever happened to you on stage?
KK: I realized I couldn't lick my own nipple on stage. I tried it because some guy asked me to and almost fell over. I still can't lick my own nipples. I don't know what that says about me.
TST: Top five songs to dance to.
KK: Anything by Tool, Perfect circle, NIN, Nirvana, or Marilyn Manson.
TST: A guy walks into a strip club by himself. Do you ever ask yourself why is he there by himself? Is that considered weird at all? (Not that I have ever done that. Nope. Never.)
KK: I prefer guys by themselves. In fact, I would never approach guys in groups because they are all showing off for each other and it's much harder to get them away from their friends for long periods of time.
TST: So is the goal to make Kayden Kross as recognizable as Jenna Jameson?
KK: If that happens I'll be thrilled.
TST: Do you have role models in the industry? Who?
KK: I really like Savannah Samson, obviously Jenna Jameson, Sunny Leone... they seem to have their lives together and I think they approach the industry like a business. but honestly I'm impressed with every one of the vivid girls I've met. They are not your typical pornstars.
TST: In our correspondence leading up to this interview, you were very adamant about not being portrayed as a bimbo. I read you are in college. In the business you are in, one might think that to be an anomaly. Why is maintaining your intellect so important to you?
KK: Porn and intelligence should not be an either/or relationship. It's possible to have both. I think a lot of the reason pornstars get a bad rap is because they are percieved as lacking any real-world sense or ability. I refuse to let myself be portrayed that way because it's not the case for myself or most of the girls in the industry. I am in porn because I choose to be and not because a had no other options. I see porn as a very practical choice because I can make a lot of money at a young age with very little investment (and really really enjoy doing it).
TST: One could make the argument the basis of porn is the male dominating fantasy. Here are these willing beautiful women, just waiting to be taken by a guy. Do you think the idea of an "intellectual pornstar" might in someway intimidate some men? For example, if a woman is smart, might she no longer be viewed as mindlessly willing? She might actually think, and therefore refuse some advances. What do you think?
KK: I think not being a bimbo will definitely shut me out from some of the market, but on the other hand I'm picking up a different corner of the market because there are guys who are really turned on by intelligence. When I worked in the strip club I made most of my money off of it.
TST: A few quick lighthearted questions before I wrap up:
TST: Favorite '80s cartoons?
KK: The Jetsons
TST: Five people you would want at a dinner discussion (past or present)?
KK: Ayn Rand. Four more people at the table ... I would want one of my old philosophy professors, Allen Ginsberg, Toni Morrison, and Pascal. I think the conversation would be interesting.
TST: Worst movie you ever paid to see in the theater?
KK: Six days Seven nights
TST: TV shows you cannot miss?
KK: I don't watch tv
TST: Where was the best place you have ever visited?
TST: If you could trade places with anyone for a day, who would it be?
KK: Angelina Jolie
TST: Personal item (clothes, car, etc) you can't live without.
KK: I really like my car. I drive a bmw z4.
TST: Type of food you can't live without.
I'd like to thank Kayden for taking the time to do this interview. And Kayden, if you are ever in Tampa, perhaps for the Nightmoves Adult Entertainment Awards in October, let me know, sushi lunch is on me.